How do I re-balance my energies so I’m more in my feminine flow?
I pride myself for my drive, organization, and work ethic. I love being busy, having plans, and feeling like I’m making things happen through my hard work. But sometimes it feels like I get so caught up in my head and my own expectations that I go in the completely wrong direction.
I’ve noticed that my biggest and best manifestations come through when I let go of expectations, am present in the moment, and let things play out of their own accord.
How do I tap into this energy more often? How do I transform my belief that I can only get what I want when I’m in control and have to hustle and grind to make it happen into one of openness and receptivity?
The Happy Hustler
Dear Happy hustler,
First, I just want to say I FEEL YA. That’s the exact mindset struggle I was in a couple months ago when I had my lowest sales month in business. (Read about how I turned it around and made $30k in three days over here.)
Finding how to balance your energy and get into flow is a process of trial and error.
When we’re out of balance, especially in business, it throws off how we show up, how we think about ourselves, and our outcomes.
The biggest missing piece to manifestation is surrender or, as you explained it, “when I let go of expectations, am present in the moment, and let things play out of their own accord.”
You and many others call this the feminine energy/flow. I like to call it the divine creative because it more accurately depicts what happens during that process.
The divine creative is about receiving inspiration.
Getting into the flow of the divine creative is about being open to receive inspiration. It’s why it includes intuition, emotions, body wisdom, and more. The divine creative turns us into channels to receive.
So, how do we tap into this?
Learning how to balance your energy and get into flow is all about getting to that place where we’re unconcerned with the end result of our manifestations/business results.
There’s a common misconception that the only way to let go is to either meditate our way there or just keep telling ourselves not to think about it over and over again.
How well has that ever worked for you? Exactly.
On the contrary, surrender is all about finding joy and pleasure. It’s about living in the energy of fun, rather than dwelling on what we don’t have and how much happier we’ll be once we have it.
Why does joy work?
When we’re trying to call something in—whether it’s more clients, money, a partner, etc.—it’s too easy and tempting to focus on want and lack.
We start to live in the mindset of “Once I get it, then I can be happy.”
That thought will keep you from finding clients, money, a partner, or even losing weight. It’s a tumor.
Have you ever felt totally ravenous and stared at the microwave for a solid two minutes waiting for your food? It feels like it’s taking FOREVER.
Then there are times when your food finished reheating 10 minutes ago and you forgot how hungry you were.
The difference is what you were doing in the meantime. Generally, when we’re doing something that brings us joy, it’s easy to forget about our rumbling tummies. (It’s why I always spend my reheating time in the kitchen doing something else—I’ve got zero patience when it comes to food.)
Manifestation is the exact same way. By creating a life of joy and pleasure where every day is full of fun, you start to live and embody that life of abundance and having what you want. You become an energetic match for what you’re calling in.
Think about it this way:
I like to say there are seasons of hustle and rest in business. Neither is bad, neither is good, they both just are.
Imagine you start your month off with no appointments booked for the month. If you start to panic about how you’ll pay your bills by the end of the month, how are you going to show up? What kind of energy will you have?
Speaking from experience, you go into overdrive. You message tons of people. You put all your creative projects on the back burner. You start telling your friends and family you can’t hang out because you don’t have any money. Maybe you even make some unwise investments from a place of needing cash NOW.
The result? Burnout.
There’s another way.
It’s possible to learn how to balance your energy and get into flow. If you look at that open calendar and instead think, “Ahhh, finally some time to catch up on those tasks I’ve been putting off,” how will you show up then?
Generally speaking, you trust that you have four or five whole weeks to book clients. You build in small amounts of client outreach, maybe even offer a sale or a fun masterclass. You still say no to clients who don’t align. And you don’t stress. You take aligned action every day.
Most importantly, you continue to have fun in your business.
The same thing goes for whatever you’re trying to manifest. The more fun you have in your life, the easier it becomes to get what you want. All because you’re not sitting around pining for it and thinking about how much better your life will be once you get it.
You need to with build joy & pleasure.
Joy and pleasure are the keys when it comes to figuring out how to balance your energy and get into flow.
I want you to ask yourself how you can bring more joy and pleasure into your daily life. Here are some examples:
- Take a few bites of food with your eyes closed and really experience all the flavors and textures.
- Turn on some music you love and dance to it.
- Sing your favorite song at the top of your lungs.
The more you can take these mini-vacations throughout the day, the easier it will be for you to forget about whatever you’re manifesting. As a result, you’ll not only be more chill about what you’re calling in, you’ll enjoy the process in getting there.
For a long-form example of surrender, consider reading Michael A. Singer’s The Surrender Experiment. I highly recommend buying it to revisit, but your local library should have it! And if they carry e-books and audio books, you can likely download them via the Overdrive app.
If you feel like something still isn’t quite right, make sure to book my Money Manifestation Reading to see what is likely blocking your manifestations from coming through.
If you’re interested in fine-tuning some longer-term work, jump on a discovery call to see if we’re a good fit to work together 1:1.
Does this help? Let me know in the comments!