Chapter 12

It’s a strange concept to think that we love the chaotic, messy scenarios we find ourselves in, but there’s so much power in accepting we do. Once you realize you wanted to experience that drama, (1) you see yourself as a powerful creator capable of shaping reality and (2) you start believing that you have the power to change it.

Existential Kink

“A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.

“‘We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark—very dark.’

“Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality—the ‘other,’ the shadow side—is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses—our ‘existential kink.’ Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power.

“In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliott, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light. Inviting us to make conscious the unconscious, Elliott asks us to own the subconscious pleasure we get from the stuck, painful patterns of our existence.

Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s ‘guilty pleasures,’ love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliott shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.”

The Pomodoro Technique

The basic premise of the Pomodoro Technique is to do work in 25-minute chunks with five-minute breaks in between. But the method actually workseven better than you might expect!

Read all about the basics and how former Forbes contributor Bryan Collins uses it in his business:

“A 25-minute Pomodoro session is long enough to get a little work done but not so long that it feels painful or overwhelming. Unlike trying to work without a break for hours, it’s relatively easy to stack small sessions on top of each other. Four Pomodoro sessions can represent a productive meeting. It’s surprising how much you can accomplish in short bursts of focused work. After that, it’s time for lunch or even a nap.”

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